Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Take this short quiz below to determine if you are.
My partner…
- Is very supportive of the things I do. Yes or No?
- Encourages me to try new things. Yes or No?
- Likes to listen when I have something on my mind. Yes or No?
- Understands that I have my own life too. Yes or No?
- Is not liked very well by my friends. Yes or No?
- Gets extremely jealous or possessive. Yes or No?
- Accuses me of flirting or cheating. Yes or No?
- Constantly checks up or me or makes me check in. Yes or No?
- Tries to control what I do and who I see. Yes or No?
- Tries to keep me from talking to my family or friends. Yes or No?
- Has big mood swings, getting angry and yelling at me but then is sweet and nice. Yes or No?
- Makes me feel nervous or like I’m “walking on eggshells”. Yes or No?
- Puts me down, calls me names or criticizes me. Yes or No?
- Makes me feel like I can’t do anything right or blames me for problems. Yes or No?
- Makes me feel like no one else would want me. Yes or No?
- Threatens to hurt themselves because of me. Yes or No?
- Grabs, pushes, shoves, chokes, punches, slaps, or holds me down. Yes or No?
- Breaks or throws things to intimidate me. Yes or No?
- Pressures or forces me into having sex or going further than I want to. Yes or No?
Scoring:
- Give yourself 1 point for every “NO” you answered to numbers 1 through 4.
- Give 1 point for every “YES” response to numbers 5 through 8.
- Give 5 points for every “YES” to numbers 9 through 19.
If you got a score of zero, don’t worry, it’s a good thing. It sounds like you are in a pretty healthy relationship. Keep it up!
If you got a score of one or two points, you might be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that is unhealthy, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they are warning signs. It is still a good idea to keep an eye out and make sure there isn’t an unhealthy pattern developing. The best thing to do is talk to your partner and let them know what you do not like and encourage them to do the same. Remember, good communication is key to building a healthy relationship.
If you scored three or more points, you are definitely seeing warning signs and may be in an abusive relationship. Remember, the most important thing is your safety. Consider making a safety plan. You do not have deal with this alone. A Door of Hope Pregnancy Center has staff and volunteers that are here to listen and help
You can get immediate help by contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
A Door of Hope Pregnancy Center is open Monday through Thursday from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM. We offer support to women who are experiencing unplanned pregnancies. Call us at 302-998-9000 to make an appointment today.